I Better Me, To Better Yourself One Way Or another. Become a Better Person

You call yourself a good person, you believe yourself to be a good person. You go to church, you pray to the God you believe in. You are good to your family, and friends. You do not do a lot of bad deeds; you live your life as good as possible. Someone you do not like you hate them, in spite you do bad things to them when they do not know. You tarnish their name, or you get a kick out of finding someway to harm them. It makes you happy to see them suffer, or brings you joy knowing you did something bad to them, that does not make you a good person. Knowing what is bad, and harming people is the worst sin there is. To knowingly do something bad, knowing it is bad is a sin; it is called envy, or anger also known as hatred, or pride. Three of the seven deadly sins. We as human are the worst animals in the animal kingdom. We are given a brain, that is the most intelligent of all species known on earth, yet we use our brain for evil. The majority of us live our lives in sin. Knowing something is bad and doing it, is worst than not knowing. But to have knowledge of right, and wrong, to purposely choose wrong, is not right. Look at the seven deadly sins known to all faith, and see how many we poses, or are guilty of. Man harms man out of hatred, greed, envy, pride, lust, sloth, and for some gluttony. Animals kill other animal out of survival. Man has many ways to survive but we harm each other for our own selfish reasons. The seven sins are known to man; for it is the sins we sin most. Human emotion is a big facture to the reasons we suffer, and sin. We allow our emotions to guide are action, rather than our heart, and reasoning. We act on instinct, and feeling, rather than rational thinking. To live is to suffer the Buddha believes, we suffer from our own thoughts. We cause our self to suffer, due to greed, envy, pride, lust, sloth, gluttony, and other sins. For our own salvation we must have knowledge, and self mastery is important. To master yourself is to control your destiny. We are here on earth but a fragment of time, a moment, an instinct, a fraction of time, and space; Yet our short time here on earth, we go through many emotions, and in that short period of time we can do so much harm, or so much good, the decision is our own to choose. The Buddha said “If you can not do any good for someone, make sure you do no harm as well.” I better me dot com, to better yourself one way or another.

Copyright secured by Digiprove © 2013 minh tran

       I realized I had a drinking problem, as much as I enjoy drinking beer. It’s probably best I don’t drink at all.  It’s fun to drink socially, or drink because you like the taste of beer; But for me I understand that I should not drink because I know I have a problem when I do. I decided to quit drinking all together. Ever since I stop drinking, I noticed I feel a lot better. Even though I don’t drink often even before going cold turkey, that few times a month that I would drink; I do not like the person I become.  I noticed from my pass experience when I drank, I always drank too much, I get cocky, and my arrogance would come out. Even drinking occasionally with friends and family is not an option for me.

       In life do what makes you happy, if you feel like it’s the right thing to do, why let anyone else make you think different? Always trust your instincts, they are there to guide you. When we do what other people want us to do, we end up later kicking ourselves for doing it. Why allow people to make you do something you don’t want to do? Do, which makes you happy. In life you know what you want for yourself, and what you want to do; Do it, believe it! It will happen! Don’t let anyone make you think differently. At the end of the day it is what makes you happy. I Better Me. To Better Yourself One Way, or Another.

What is that you want out of life?

Remember your morals.

Being a good dad, son, brother, and person.

The mind must be strong, the body will follow.

Do not let the outside world deterred you from yourself.

Do not allow yourself to be deterred.

Who are you?

Who do you want to be?

What is life?

“Do not compromise yourself, you are all you have.” Janis Joplin

“If not now, then when?” Buddhist monk Master Do, Minh Wei

I want to be a good father.

The mind must be at peace.

The body must be rested.

Then the mind will be able to function properly.

Anything that cause the body to be restless, will affect the mind; unity will no longer be, the mind, and body will then allow the outside world to cause unbalance to one’s self.

Do not allow this to happen.

In a moment of weakness, all may be lost for that time; which may cause a lost that is non retainable .

Anything that causes the mind to be lost, must not be consumed, and afar from.

Drinking, drugs, anything bad must be eliminated.

Even 1 or 2 beers, which may be controlled, it allows a third, fourth, even fifth, and six to follow; For this reason even beer should be eliminated from the equation.

One beer alone already plants the seed.

Any evil seed, that may be planted, may create a giant tree.

For this reason you will no longer plant that seed.

Integrity, morals, must be kept.

 My Favorite quote of all time is Albert Einstein definition of Insanity.

“Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.” Albert Einstein

Physicist (1879-1955)

Change, do something different!

Copyright secured by Digiprove © 2013 minh tran

Life is an everlasting learning cycle. There is always something new to learn, nature intended it to be that way. It‘s funny we learn more from kids as we grow up. I guess that is why as adults we enjoy the company of kids so much. They remind us what it is to be a kid again. They teach us what happiness is, having no care in the world, but to play and to enjoy ourselves. Kids don’t need much, all they need is our nurturing, our love, and our friendship. Children also teach us what it is to be a parent; Just as our parent was to us. They make us understand why our parents treat us the way they did when we were younger, and why our parents loved us so much to the point it always embarrass us when we were with our friends. It’s funny, how my son has taught me so much about life. How much we don’t understand, until we become parents ourselves. The things we use to do, when we thought we knew everything, and now we see them do it. We now understand all the work our parents did to take care of us, and because of that we learn to appreciate our parents that much more. I also think about how my mom is to my son. The way grandparents spoil their grand kids, and love them so much. The parents always get mad because the grandparents our spoiling their kids. Think about it, it’s going to be so fun when we are grandparents ourselves, and we do the same thing to our grandchildren. Then our children become come parents, we become grandparents. Then our grandchildren become parents, and our kids become grandparents; The cycle of life continues again, new mistakes are made, new lessons are learned, and life continues. I Better me dot com. To better yourself one way or another.

Copyright secured by Digiprove © 2013 minh tran

Everyone thinks differently, we all have different ideas. Everything that I write you don’t have to like, or agree, but read it. I like to listen to everyone, and whatever I like, I take it, I make it my own, and I incorporate into my own life. Whatever I do not agree with, I throw it out the window, and do not incorporate into my own life. Imagine we all thought the same, nothing new would occur, no ideas would formulate; If we all think a like, how boring would that be? Because we all think differently, and function differently, our combined creativity makes this world marvelous. Think for yourself, that’s what your brain is for. School is to educate you, so that you are able to think for yourself. You take what you learn, you follow the directions you believe is for you, and you make your own decisions in life, on your belief system. “Never be afraid to sit a while, and think.” Lorraine Hansberry. I Better me dot com. To better yourself one way or another.

Copyright secured by Digiprove © 2013 minh tran

Nam mo a di da phat. We as humans, we get caught it in our lives. We forget we are all one entity, life, God’s creation. We all come from one place, heaven. We all are brothers, and sisters; All of life colors, creed, people, animals, insects, birds, trees, earth, wind, and water. We forget we are all God’s life creations. We as humans are the highest of all living beings, so we get occupied in our own lives. We forget to help each other out. Our greed for our own well being, blinds us, and makes us forget about our family, friends, neighbors, brothers, sisters, all people, creations, life. We must not forget us, all of us, all living beings, trees, animals, water, and earth. Without any of us, life will seize to exist. We are all here because we compliment each other, with out one or the other we start to die slowly, until we all get sick and die. We must protect each other, all of us, people, earth, trees, animals, insects, life beings. 5% of the people on earth owns everything, the other 95% of us work everyday of our lives, and struggles to make a living. You do the math, something is not right. Help each other out. Sometimes we forget we are all people. We treat each other bad; for what? For the desire of money, and objects. Great! So then what? We fight each other for all this money, then we use the money to buy a new car, the big TV, the expensive clothes, purse, and shoes. Then, it last a while, and we get bored of these things; Now we want the newer car, nicer TV, new clothes, purse, and shoes again. An ever lasting cycle of desires, and we work our whole lives; In the end to not have enough money to retire.

We are only on this earth for a short time. For those in our 20’s, and 30’still young. How much longer do you have to live? Another 40 to 50 years. Time goes by real fast. For those of us that have kids, how fast do our kids grow? In a couple of years our kids are five years old, in another couple of years, our kids are ten years of age, then 20 years of age. Now we are getting old. We are only on this earth for a short instinct of time. There is so much to our world. So much the world have to offer, yet very little time to discover it all. Don’t you want to enjoy life beauties, travel the world, meet new people. Learn new cultures, food, and diversity. See the beauties of nature, ocean, birds, trees, animals, and scenery. Explore life!  I Better me dot com. To better yourself one way or another.

Copyright secured by Digiprove © 2013 minh tran

Believe in yourself, if you don’t believe in yourself who will? There are already people that doubt you, and don’t believe in you. Believe anything is possible, that’s what makes dreams in to reality. Believing you are able to do anything you want. There are already lots of people in the world that do not believe. Non dreamers, non achievers, people who live life, doing the same routine daily, thinking only what they are taught; Change the world, be a leader. Look at the world marvels, be marvelous yourself. Believe anything is possible. This is the reason we now know the world is round, and not flat!! It is the imagination that creates the world, and doubts that do not create. Be part of the world solutions. I believe I can fly, I believe I can touch the sky. I believe we can reach the bottoms of depths, and soar further, and higher than the eagles; Past the stars in the skies. Someone believed it! Thank God they did. That’s the reason why we have space shuttles and jets that can travel speeds that are unimaginable. People that turn dreams into reality believed they can. Believe it! I Better me dot com. To better yourself one way or another.

What is it that you want out of life? This is a question I ask often. Even though we know what we want out of life, for some reason we don’t do it. Why not? What is holding us back? Why don’t we do what we want out of life. Responsibilities, priorities, family, lack of motivation. Whatever the reason are we don’t do what we want, I don’t understand that. But we have one life, the present moment. Yet we always wait for the future so we can accomplish our goals. Then years pass, and we are still are at the same place in life. Why don’t we make that change, take that chance, and do it? Do it, make the move, today is the day we need to make that move. Today, the present moment is living life. The present moment is what we accomplish, that creates our future, and our lives. NOW!! PRESENT MOMENT!! DO IT!! 2013 and beyond. Live it, LIFE. I Better me dot com. To better yourself one way or another.

Copyright secured by Digiprove © 2013 minh tran

Everything you plan has a goal, a time, and expiration date to get majority of it done.

Time is valuable and irreplaceable.

Get things done with your time.

Spend all day doing nothing, you accomplish NOTHING.

Spend two hours a day doing something, you accomplish a life time.

SET A TIME, A DATE, A END RESULT GOAL.

GET IT DONE

The day you stop watching TV, is the day you will be able to accomplish so much.

Life is too short to waste your time stressing, and being unproductive. Everyday, live  your life, and everyday will feel like a Full Productive Day.

Unproductive= Unhappiness

Productivity= Happiness

Achievements, and accomplishments!

“Ain’t nobody going to hold me down, I got to keep my groove on.” Song Unknown

[You are equip to do anything you want. Stop waiting for someone to come and make all your dreams come true. You have the skills, and talent to go forth and accomplish anything you want.] Joel Osteen

“Do, or do not, there is no try.” Yoda, Star Wars

“I did not believe it. That is why you failed.” Yoda, Star Wars

“The guy that puts out the most effort is going to reap out the most reward in the End.” Troy Landry, Swamp People

“You go to School, you set your goals, and you accomplish it.” Phong, Santa Ana College

“A Man who dares to waste one hour of time has not discovered the value of life.” Charles Darwin

“Never be afraid to sit a while, and think.” Lorraine Hansberry

“Never put off till tomorrow what can be done today.” Ninja Ninjutsu

“Time will always continue no matter what we do, whether that is nothing, or something will determine the outcome nothing, or something.” Minh Tran

I Better me dot com. To better yourself one way or another.

Copyright secured by Digiprove © 2013 minh tran

Ability may get you to the top, but it takes character to keep you there.

Your future depends on many things, but mostly on you.

Nobody who ever gave his best regretted it.

If not us, then who? If not now, then when?

One thing you can not recycle is waste of time.

Success is getting what you want, happiness is about what you accomplish/get!

It is easier to do a job right, then to explain why you didn’t.

We can’t direct the wind, but we can adjust the sails.

Small opportunities are the beginning of a great enterprise. Courage, grace, under pressure.

Buddhist Monk, Master Do, Minh Hue

Copyright secured by Digiprove © 2013 minh tran

Acknowledgements: Buddhist Monk, Master Do, Minh Hue

The movie “Pursuit Of Happiness” Starring actor Will Smith. He invested all of his money into a device that scans bone, similar to an x-ray machine, but more expensive. Not doing so well, being broke, poor, his wife left him. He was for force to live on the streets with his son, homeless. Doing whatever it takes to take care of his son. He interns for a job as a stock broker, with no pay or income for 6 months. After the 6 month of internship if he is lucky he will be chosen for the position out of 20 other interns. Working hard everyday to learn everything he can, and landing a big account he succeeds and earns the position. Having no experience he did whatever it took to succeed. Based on a true story. I feel, if this man here can take care of his son, with no experience doing whatever he can to take care of his son, and succeeding; There is no reason why I can’t succeed in life being a single father, with the help, and support from my mom, sister, and brother. They had always been there to help me take care of my son when I needed them to, so that I was able to go to work and school , and continue my education. Thank You, guys.

“Kings move men as ponds, in the end it is still your decision.” Movie, Kingdom Of Heaven

You must be the change you wish to see in the world; otherwise you will not see any difference in the world.

There is more bad, then good in the world. May I help make a difference.

Responsibility first. Definition of a father is to take care, to teach, to lead as example.

“When you die, before judgment, you can not say you did something a certain way because it was convenient, everyone is responsible for their own actions.” Movie, Kingdom Of Heaven

Be the example you wish to become.

Anyone can do bad deeds; it is harder to do good deeds. Mom is a great example of good deeds.

I feel if I am half the parent my mom is, I will be a great father. My mom through her own example teaches me to be patient; To teach your children through love, and understanding. Nurturing a child is the key to creating a happy strong person, to become a strong leader in our society. My mom is a single mother with three kids. We were raised in East Los Angeles, Boyle Heights, California. We grew up in the housing projects, being Chinese, and Vietnamese Americans I always felt out of place. But now I love the experience. It is the experience that creates the person I am today. I am happy to still have my friends that I grew up with. My mom raising three kids, she did everything to take care of us, clothed us, feed us, and make sure we had a great education. Before my mom would leave to work she would cook enough food for us, to last the entire day. Then she would leave to work from 8 am everyday, and come home around 9 pm 6 days a week. She worked in a nail salon, earning around minimum wage each year. Her main concern in life was making sure we had the best education we can receive. She sent all three of to Catholic school from 1^st grade to 8^th grade. With the help of the Dolores Mission School, in Boyle Heights, East Los Angeles, California; My mom was also able to send all three of us of Catholic High Schools. Everyday I work harder, so that one day I will no longer have too. The Pursuit of life, and Happiness. “Nothing which has entered into our experience is ever lost.” William Ellery Channing. I Better me dot com. To better yourself one way or another.

Copyright secured by Digiprove © 2013 minh tran